Murdock Muse
May-June 2004
Part 2

THINKING OF WALTER
Gene Murdock

Here's a thought that just came to me as I looked at the calendar - Sunday, the fourth, would be brother Walter's 64th birthday. Walt was born in 1940, and had the distinction of turning 4 on 4/4/44. This immediately came to mind as I saw that this year his date falls on 04/04/04.

For those of you who didn't know, Walt was killed in a bicycle accident in 1955 at the age of 14. He was apparently spinning the front wheel of his bicycle when the fork collapsed and sent him flying over the handlebars, landing on his head.

I never really knew Walt, he being only about eleven when I left for the Air Force, but I do recall seeing him a couple of times before I left for Germany in 1953.

Happy Birthday, Walt!



WALTER & THE FAMILY
Nancy Murdock

[Ed. Note: The article below was written for a special project a couple of years ago. My friend Paula Franklin was working on her Master's degree in art (already having her doctorate in pyschology). She asked our poetry group if any of us had had someone close die before age 30. She wanted to do manipulated computer art that included photos and painting. I gave her a list, and she chose to do a piece that included both our grandson Ben, who died at age 16, and Walter, who died at age 15. Before she came to interview us, she asked me to gather some photos and write about Walter's place in the family, Walter's relationship with them all, and the effect of his death on the family. To see the pictures, click
here for the May-June picture gallery. To view Dr. Franklin's work, click here for her gallery. It takes a while to load, but there are three Murdock pictures.]

Walter Eldon Murdock, born 4/4/40, was close to his sister Barbara in age. They came along several years after the first four. They were both babies when they moved to Hubbardston. Mom Murdock would push them up the hill from their house in a big tan baby carriage. Like most of his siblings, Walt had very dark brown hair and brown eyes. He tended not to say much, but Barbara, the only one of the eight with blue eyes, was a talker. She was sick a lot and therefore got more attention than her brother. Margie and Arthur were born fairly close together after another gap of several years.

In the picture where four of us are sitting on the grass, Bob and I were having a picture taking session with his grandfather's camera. Grandpa Murdock, who had formerly tried a career in photography, had a truly remarkable camera. It had a view finder the size of the finished print. All of the pictures came out perfectly, with sharp detail. After Grandpa had taken a few shots of the two of us, he left us the camera to take some more. Later he took us into his part of the house to develop and print the shots.

It was a nice, lazy Sunday afternoon. I was either 17 or 18, and we were either going steady or engaged. While we were doing our photos, three of his younger siblings asked to have their pictures taken, too, and Bob said "sure." I thought the kids should first wash up, comb their hair, and dress in their best clothes for such an auspicious photo, but Bob took them as they were. Margie was a little cranky, but we wanted to keep her from wandering in to get in her mother's way, so I picked her up. As the oldest of seven, I'd had plenty of experience in holding younger kids. There wasn't anything else going on, so Walt and Barb were thrilled to be in on this fun.

Margie, born 12/3/45, had recently cut her own hair. Walt was about 9, and Barbara was about 10. Walt gave his usual big smile, as did Barb. My family lived about two miles from them, so we didn't visit back and forth all that much, but we saw them at school, church, Grange, and anything else that was happening in town. Walter was my brother Doug's age, and Barb was in my sister Polly's grade. Lennie, a year older than I, was in my grade and one of my best friends.

Walter was never, to my knowledge, a troublesome child. He tended to behave quite well, and outside of a certain daring with his bike, he never had any teenage troubles in town. He wasn't as intelligent as most of his siblings, but that didn't place him in the dull category. Both Bob and Barbara skipped a grade in school. Barb was a whiz at jigsaw puzzles, also. She could put one together faster than I could get the outer edge complete. I believe both Gene and Lennie also graduated from high school with honors. Walter was an easy student to teach, but not brilliant.

I took the pictures of Thanksgiving 1951. These snapshots don't show quite the whole gathering, which also included Dotty's husband Sulo and the youngest sibling, Arthur. Gene had joined the Air Force shortly after graduation from high school. From left starting with Walter, the first picture has Bob Schlicke (Lennie's husband), Margie, Lennie (posing with a huge turkey leg, which she put back after the shot), Aunt Erma, Barb, Dotty, and her daughter Wanda (I think). The other has Bob, Aunt Helen, Mom, Dad with Dottie's daughter Sally (I think) on his lap, Walt, and Barb. As can be seen, Walter was enjoying himself immensely. The Murdock family gatherings were always fun and low-keyed. The drink of choice was milk.

When Walter died, it left a big hole that has never been forgotten. The gatherings went on, and we all continued to enjoy life, but we were always cognizant of the missing person. Barb in particular would mention him. Mom was always a little sad under her happiness when he was mentioned. When she later had dementia and was in a nursing home, she would name all eight of her children in order and look proud. No mention was ever made of Walter's death in that context.

I really don't recall much about Walter's funeral. What I do remember is that all the kids in town around his age were present. After the funeral, they became an honor guard and walked in front of all the vehicles from the church to the cemetery, approximately 1½ miles away. Sulo drove Bob and me in his truck, and he downshifted to avoid any accident on the downhill trek. I seem to remember that the town policeman and his deputy halted all traffic in both directions.

In 1998 Gene's wife died from cancer, and he asked me to do a memorial service for Chris in Hubbardston, our home town. After visiting with guests and going to the pond near the Murdock house to sprinkle ashes, he took us all out to dinner. Afterward, I bullied them all into letting me take a group picture. They lined up by age. All of the living ones were there (which is why I insisted on the picture), but I thought of Walter and his empty place in the line. I believe Barbara said she wished she'd brought a picture of Walter to hold in his place.



SETTLING IN
Christel Murdock

March 22: So far, I really like my job at the Red Cross. It is low stress, and for once, I don't take my work home with me very much, which is an amazing thing for me... that means sleep as soon as I want to, and not having to write long pages down in my journal about how rough my day was.

I am working with a Russian gentleman, who, I am told, has calmed down a LOT since I joined the force... and he keeps telling Tiffany and me that he wants to adopt us (he has always wanted daughters, but was blessed only with 3 sons).

I am learning a lot, but also wonder if this is really where I want to be. I know that I want to be in PR and eventually own my own business, and I'd like to find out which steps I can take to get into the Red Cross PR/marketing department.

I am really enjoying the apartment Tiffany and I ended up with. It's very cute, with high ceilings... a bit small, but definitely livable. Soon enough, we will be in our new condo, happy as can be :). In the meantime, I am getting all my things in order for the move and for my life... I am getting furniture (although not much) and decorative items, and deciding, on some level, what to keep and what to either sell or donate to Goodwill.



UPCOMING TRIAL
Valerie Davidson

March 4: I don't know how much the rest of the country has followed the Laci Peterson murder story, but Scott Peterson's trial is coming up soon right here in Redwood City, and we expect a media circus.

The trial was moved here from the original county in the interest of fairness, yet I don't know a single person here, either, who isn't convinced of his guilt. Rumor has it that the jurors may be sequestered, and that it could take six months! Everyone has been a little nervous waiting for the selection process to begin. For instance, Jerod got the call several weeks ago, but has moved from this county and therefore breathed an enormous sigh of relief.

Yesterday I went to K-Mart and found that their huge parking lot has been sectioned off for jury selection. In other words, instead of the usual number of prospective jurors, which use a given parking lot near the courthouse, the court is obviously going to have to cull from a far larger pool and has taken over the K-Mart lot to accommodate this.

Additionally, the street which runs past the courthouse has been converted to a one-way street, and the half of the street that used to run in the opposite direction has been turned into some kind of parking area that will be specially-designated.

We've heard rumors that it will be impossible to find parking in downtown Redwood City during the trial, and that it might cost as much as $200/day for media, etc.

One good item in all this: it is of course a blessing for the local economy, which has in some ways suffered worse than the Silicon Valley because we are on its fringe. Huge, relatively new buildings have sat empty for some years now, but I saw lights and cars at one of the nearby ones recently.

People just don't seem to tire of this tale, which seems to have captured our interest in much the same way as the O.J. trial. But if people were and remain somewhat divided in opinion about O.J.'s guilt or innocence, I have heard no voices defending Scott P. That in itself promises to make this trial interesting.



R.I.P. LOIS (HOWLETT) KAMUNEN
Claudia Lindsey

It was a beautiful ceremony, with a horse drawn hearse and doves let go at the graveside. Dawn Hall, Lois's niece, read a poem that Lois had written that none of us knew had existed. Here is what I am copying off the funeral notice that was passed out at the services.

A Service of Memory for Lois Althea Kamunen,
Born December 28th, 1911 - Portland, Maine
Passed Away April 19th, 2004
Services held April 28th, 2004 at the Church Of Our Heritage, Forest Lawn Memorial Park, Covina, CA
Interment: Cherished Memory - Forest Lawn- Covina Hills - Covina, CA

[Ed. Note: Lois was Claudia's aunt, Clyde's sister, and my first cousin. We last saw her at Howlett Reunion West in 2002.--NAM]



PHONE CALL FROM DARREL
Bob Murdock

On March 22, 2004, while Nancy was in Seattle on a business trip, Darrel called with some breath-taking information. He said that he and Mark had refinanced their duplex house in St. Paul, which had more than doubled in value since they bought it. (Due partly, no doubt, to the great landscaping they have done, including Darrel's notable flower gardens.)

As a result, they each pocketed a goodly amount. Darrel said he paid up his credit cards and other debts, and then still had a tidy sum. What to do with it? He pondered this thought. Maybe a new pickup truck. But there was something lurking in his mind... What about a new motorcycle, like he'd been hankering over for 20 years? A lady friend helped Darrel to decide. A Harley would be really cool, she said.

Darrel didn't ponder much longer. He shopped online and found a really good deal. In celebration of their 100th nniversary, Harley-Davidson came up with a stunning new bike and a stunning price. Best time to buy is now, said the vendor. So it was that Darrel ordered a brand new Harley XL 833 Custom Sportster (as I understand it) with black and chrome dual seats and two sets of foot pads. Wow!

We should be seeing pictures of the new cycle soon. Darrel said he has a new digital camera.



SHINGLES
Bob Murdock

I have neither been hospitalized nor seriously ill in the past 17 years, so it was a shock to be diagnosed with a case of shingles in mid-March, 2004. This is the legacy from chicken pox, which I had as a kid. The first symptoms were a rash on the forehead, and a sore right eye. My (former) primary care doctor at Kaiser didn't recognize the malady, but he sent me to an eye specialist. Aha, you seem to have the shingles virus in the right ophthalmic nerve, said the lady eye doctor. She prescribed predforte eye drops and erythromycin ointment, and sent me back to primary care. There I got a week's worth of anti-virus tablets and two weeks of prednisone pills (to keep swelling down).

Shingles is a virus in a band of nerves on one side of the body, and mine happens to be in the top-most band, alas. In elderly people, it can take weeks or months to recover, so I am trying to adjust for the long haul. The good news is that I felt ill only in the beginning, and my appetite is fine. It's a matter of discomfort and impaired vision.

The discomfort has principally been a chronic low-level headache, and I am managing that by alternating aspirin, Advil, and Tylenol, along with an occasional cool compress. But there was a period of about two weeks when I experienced a strange phenomenon: the lightning-bolt headache! Four or five times a day it would come on suddenly and intensely. But I quickly found that it always lasted only about four minutes. One time it happened in a grocery store, and shoppers took great sympathy on finding me hunched over the wagon. "I'm okay," I assured them. "This is just temporary." Fortunately, these bouts disappeared as mysteriously as they had started - just in time before Charlie Frost stopped by for lunch and a short visit.

The vision problem is, I hope, temporary. With the right eye affected by the virus, I have double vision. I have to be careful going up or down stairs, and I can't drive. This needs to be corrected pretty soon, because my driver's license renewal (by my 78th birthday, June 3) requires a vision test! Back to primary care tomorrow (April 30) and then the eye specialist.

All of the above boils down to this: just a big nuisance. On the other hand, spring has sprung, the lawns are green, baseball season is here, and I am enjoying working on the Muse. Life is great!



SLEEPLESS IN SEATTLE
Nancy Murdock

In the middle of March my team leader developed bronchitis, and I was asked to substitute for him on a trip to Seattle. I was ecstatic! I'd been asking for years to go to this conference, so I didn't hesitate to say yes.

But wait! How would I get everything done for Bob before I left? By using vacation time on several partial days, I managed to take a week's worth of laundry to the laundromat (to avoid all those trips up and down the stairs here), buy enough groceries for a platoon of hungry adventurers for a week (since Bob was unsure of what he could eat at that time), get Bob to three doctor appointments (including two and a half hours at the eye specialists'), and pick up all his prescriptions. With Colleen McKay agreeing to oversee him, I was ready to concentrate on the trip.

I arranged for a private car to pick me up at the crack of dawn, so I wouldn't have to worry about missing the plane because of long lines at airport security. As it turned out, it was a piece of cake, and I broke out the first of several romance novels and mysteries to pass the time.

On the second leg of my trip, my seatmate was an eleven year old boy with dual U.S.-Israeli citizenship, a pure delight to visit with. He was returning after a visit with his grandparents in Israel. He even gave me some advice about what to buy for a Bar Mitzvah gift for the son of a quilting friend.

Seattle was a surprise: I couldn't believe it was ahead of Baltimore in its spring blossoms, when it's north of us! The conference center was excellent, and the conference was extremely well planned and carried out. There were way too many classes I would have liked to attend, but I was able to get a good sampling of subjects, all of which were highly fascinating. This was a conference on electronic payments, a subject with which I have worked for over 13 years. We even had a terrific presentation about eBay by the woman who started it!

I can now tell you that those of us who still use checks to pay bills are in the minority. As a futurist, I tried to get Bob to switch before we have to admit we're lagging behind the norm, but he still prefers to pull out the checkbook. We do at least have some recurring bills that get paid by debiting our bank account, so fortunately we aren't in the most reactionary group!

Both my fellow traveler Pat and I chose to get more information about Check 21, an upcoming process by which checks will be photocopied, and the image will have the same force of an original as the true original. I also got introduced to truncation and a few other current ways that checks become electronic payments. In the class on identity theft, studies showed that the biggest reason was not high tech at all; it was "dumpster diving." I pictured all of those bags of paper we had taken to the recycling station, and I shuddered. We probably need to get a good shredder, even for all that lovely junk mail that gets transferred to the recycling box as it comes in the door.

Pat and I went shopping the last evening, and she bought a large piece of salmon to bring home. I contented myself with some fabric from a quilt shop and some locally made fudge.

I'm hoping to get a chance to use some of what I learned, before it fades away. It was a good trip, and I hope to get another chance soon.

Next time I won't use the hotel phone, though. It's WAY too expensive! Also, I hope to adjust to the time difference next time!



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