Murdock Muse
January-February 2006, Part 3





Edna Howlett
Photo c. 1950


REMEMBERING MY MOTHER
Nancy Murdock

When a much younger quilting friend lost her mother recently, I wrote most of this to encourage her to enjoy happy memories of her mother.

My mother (my sole surviving parent, with both sets of grandparents also gone) died at age 52 when I was 29. I still have vivid memories of my childhood, with my mother cooking delicious meals on a wood stove (until my father made us the first family in town to own a gas stove), pumping the water to heat on the stove and then doing the weekly laundry in the wringer washer, taking us all into my bedroom to play great games during thunderstorms, moving big rocks with a friend to make a flower garden by the stone wall (she weighed under 100 pounds soaking wet), and taking us to pick blueberries in the surrounding woods. Somehow I always think first of sunny days, even though the sun was in hiding during the rainy days when she let us play train with the kitchen chairs as she washed the floor around us.

I also cherish the memories of the days when she dressed us all up and got us onto the train for Winchendon to visit Grandma and Grandpa Mawhinnie for the day. The train was a really exotic experience for country kids in the period up to WWII. The red velour seats could be flipped over so that two seats faced each other. We all wanted to be the ones to ride backward. Bob (who has his own memories of that train) and I can still recite some of the calls made by the conductor. "Gardner, Gardner. Change for Athol, Orange, Greenfield, and North Adams. Don't leave any articles."



MARY SALMINEN
David A. Salminen

Nov. 15: To help you place this: Mary’s husband Wilho Salminen (1909-2001) was the son of Wilho & Matilda Salminen of Hubbardston, Massachusetts. Wilho senior was a brother of Victor Salminen. I knew Sulo & Dottie’s children as my cousins – Wanda, Sally, Teddy, et al.

My mother Mary passed away at Encore Senior Village at Peoria in Arizona, on October 31, 2005. She had stopped eating, gradually, over the previous two weeks, and was allowed to go peacefully, according to the terms of the living wills that she and my father Wilho had put in place years ago. She seemed to have made her mind up, in the last days before she died, to just let go of it all, on her own terms. One might say that, at age 95, it was her prerogative to make up her own mind.

I'd been down to see her in Arizona the previous week, but no one seemed to recognize at that time just how close she was to leaving. My wife Veerah and I got the hint on Sunday the 30th, and flew down to Arizona from Portland again, Monday morning the 31st, arriving at Encore just hours after Mary had already passed on.

Mary had been placed on Hospice care a couple of months previously. They did everything possible to keep her comfortable during those last days. She leaves me with many memories, not the least of which was of her fine appreciation, throughout her life, of the Beautiful, in its many forms, but perhaps most particularly music. I shall always remember hearing her play piano in the evening after my sister Christine and I, as small children, had been put to bed - wonderful things like Sibelius's "Romance", Peter de Rose's "Deep Purple", J. S. Bach's "Sheep May Safely Graze" and many other songs.

A Memorial has been scheduled for Dec. 5, 2005 10:30 a.m. at Mary's longtime church, The First Presbyterian Church of Sun City, 12225 N 103rd Ave. Sun City, AZ, 85351. [phone 623-974-3605]

We're recommending memorial gifts, if people are so inclined, either to the church, or to the Alzheimer's Association, 1028 E McDOWELL ROAD, PHOENIX, AZ 85006-2622

I am trying to get the word out to relatives, Finns & Friends, the Camera Guild, etc. Feel free to pass the word to other people as you will.


Foster L. Howlett
U.S. Army

Thomas A. Howlett
U.S. Marines

Stephen C. (l) and
Andrew F. Howlett
U. S. Army

John L. Howlett
U.S. Army

Robert D. Murdock
U.S. Naval Reserve

Jason R. Murdock
U.S. Army Reserves

Timothy C. Murdock
Army Intelligence


HONORING VETERANS
Nancy Murdock

Below is a copy of an article I wrote for the SSA publication "In the SSA Family" for December 2005. For Veterans Day, we were invited to write articles honoring veterans. I decided to limit mine to the ones below. All the employees of the Social Security Administration have access to that newsletter.

Some of the facts may not be totally accurate, but the deadline was short. I didn't have time to check dates with my brothers. Bob's picture was also in the article, one of seven responses to the request. I would have used more pictures if it hadn't been such a daunting job to search for them among the many boxes in the hall closet. Now Bob has found a nice batch among some family collages we did for gifts one year and fortunately didn't store in the photos closet.

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We have a long, proud history of Veterans in my family.

My father, Foster L. Howlett, took two tries to enlist at age 17 during World War I. He did not pass the weight requirements the first time, so he ate a lot of bananas for 2 weeks and passed on the second try. He became a Sergeant and was the company clerk for some time. His most famous battle was the Meuse-Argonne.

I remember on April 12, 1945, hearing the church bells ringing and turning on the car radio to see if World War II had ended. Instead, we heard of President Roosevelt's death. As soon as they started playing "Taps" my father jumped out of the car, stood at attention, and held his salute until the song was finished. In 1950, Dad was the Marshall for the annual Memorial Day parade in Hubbardston, Massachusetts.

My brother Thomas Howlett was in the Marines during the Korean War. Two of my brothers, Andrew and Stephen, enlisted in the late 1950s, along with some friends from our home town. They had agreed to go together. One of them was not going to make it, as he was a little slow. But my brothers said if Reggie wasn't accepted, they would not enlist; this was a package deal. Since Andy had received the highest score ever for that recruiting station, the Army agreed to take them all. Andy served in Germany and Steve on the border between North and South Korea. My youngest brother, John, did two tours of duty in Vietnam, where he was wounded twice.

My husband, Robert D. Murdock, went into the Navy during World War II shortly after graduation from high school at age 17. He served on a flagship, the USS Panamint, in the Pacific. His job was in the radio room. He has many stories that our grandsons enjoy hearing. After he was discharged at the end of the war, he was able to go to college to study under the GI Bill. He chose a career associated with his Navy work, electronics, which was just getting started at engineering colleges.

Our grandson, Jason Murdock, in the Army Reserves, has returned after a one-year stint in Afghanistan, where he was in ordnance disposal. He is proud of the fact that they were able to find and destroy some of the many landmines that have been planted in that country over the years. They also found and destroyed some large ammunition dumps.

This week our 18-year-old grandson, Timothy Murdock, will graduate from Basic Training in the Army. He has been approved for the Special Forces, where he plans to go into counter intelligence. Grandma is doing a lot of praying.



SOME ADDITIONS TO THE LIST
Brian Funaiole

Nov. 22: Hi. I just Googled my last name and came upon your family list. My Uncle Albert and Aunt Jennie Funaiole are on there, and I figured you might wish to add the missing among that limb of the family tree. There were four sons born to Walter and Lillis (Howlett) Funaiole, my father Ronald, and my uncles Albert, Paul and Walter.

Now the large family size on this limb, and my lack of contact with the majority of the family over the recent years, have left my memory rather fuzzy. I am the son of Ronald and Susan (McCaffrey) Funaiole, as is my brother John. My Uncle Albert had many children, and I can only remember David, Martha, Michael, Tereasa, Cindy and Jennifer. I think there is one or two more.

My other uncles I have little contact with as Paul lives in Maine and I believe Walter is living in Minnesota. Well I hope this adds a little to your list and If you want a more complete list ask Clyde Howlett. He sent us a copy of our family tree several years ago and I believe he had traced it back as far as William Bradford (yes THAT William Bradford, from history class). Good luck in your endeavor. [Ed. Note: Yes, that is OUR William Bradford. I recall how excited I was to find a book by him in the library at the University of Minnesota.--NAM]



YEAR 2005 IN REVIEW
Bob Murdock


Year 2005 started off like most years - we didn’t stray far from home in the first quarter. But in the remainder of 2005 we visited New England three times and Williamsburg VA once, and we also got as far as Richmond on an aborted trip to South Carolina.

On April 23 Margery (my sister) and Jack Aukstikalnis stopped by, en route from New Hampshire to their summer home in Arizona. They joined us for lunch and had a tour of Nan’s quilt and painting galleries, and we all snapped some photos. The
visit is reported in the May-June 2005 Muse, and you can see their marvelous motor home in the Muse photo gallery for July and August.

Brother Gene organized a Murdock gathering for the Memorial Day weekend in Hubbardston MA, and we celebrated the life of our late sister Lenore Schlicke. Nancy and I drove up from Baltimore, the first extended driving I had done since my bout with shingles in March 2004. You can read about the get-together in the July-August 2005 Muse.

The Howlett family reunion in 2005 was celebrated at John and Cathy’s on July 23, rather than July 4. But Sean Howlett provided the traditional fireworks anyhow! Claudia and Dennis Lindsey came all the way from California. Reports by Claudia, Nancy, and Bob can be found in the September-October 2005 Muse.

For our annual vacation at a timeshare resort, we chose Attitash Mountain Village in Bartlett, NH, and spent a week there starting with the Labor Day weekend. While there, we were delighted to have a visit from cousin Priscilla and Roy Januskiewicz, and had a phone conversation with cousin Joan Calder. I wrote about the week in the November and December 2005 Muse. In the same issue, Nancy tells about our aborted trip to South Carolina for grandson Timothy Murdock’s graduation from Army Basic Training. Tim’s parents fortunately did get to see Tim graduate, and both Ian and Becky wrote articles for that edition of the Muse.

It turned out that we had some Fairfield timeshare points left over, enough for a week in one of our favorite cities, Williamsburg, VA. We have been there half a dozen times, and for our final trip of 2005 we drove down in the second week of November. This year we planned better and had a nice visit with Derek and Rosalind Revilock-Frost. Nancy has a delightful account about our Williamsburg week in part two of this issue of the Muse.

Nancy also took two business trips in 2005. She spent a few days in Scottsdale, AZ in early June to get advanced training, and flew to Atlanta at the end of November for more training at the Federal Reserve Bank. Nancy also had one day of training in October at the Human Resources Institute, just east of Washington, DC. I saw on the map that there was a big shopping center across the street, so I offered to drive down with her. Hey, I’m comfortable spending a day at a shopping center. I shopped, ate at a pizza house, did my BOA banking. A pig in clover!



FOR STEWART*
Nancy Murdock

The Light
Was beautiful beyond words
Calling him
To leave his world
Of wrestling with pain
Of never being perfect -

Come to the Light -
With awe and wonder
He strained toward the Light
The perfect Beauty
The enfolding Love -
Come to the Light.

But the medical team
Was too good
Working together
They wrenched him back
From the beautiful Light
Brought him back to his family
To the troubles and woes
Of an imperfect life
With no Light.

He lived again
Walking the Earth
Acknowledging friends
Watching for God
To show him the Way -
But he never forgave
The medical team
And he never forgot
The Light.
-–Nancy Murdock, 2005
*Stewart was a member of my Bible Study
in CA in the early 80s.





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